Details, Details, Details

 

I'm obsessed with details. I just can't get enough. In fact, I had potentially TOO MANY. But for me, specific details make everything personal and special. One-of-a-kind.

 

Hopefully seeing my wedding details here will start the wheels churning for you and your big day. I will include links where applicable, and as always, feel free to write to me at hello@writewithrosie.com with any questions!

(Don't worry--I'm not trying to sell you a thing. I just like being helpful!)

 

 

You can fancy up your invitations with a little bit of baker's twine. Click here for more info on invitations and paper goods. 

 

Your gorgeous bouquet can become even more special with family treasures. I had my grandmother's rosary and lace from her veil included in the wrap.

Thank you to Hopper Hills for the flowers of my dreams!!!

 

I was lucky enough to wear my mother's veil. It was VERY 70s, and actually, it was the veil I started out by saying I DIDN'T want--a huge, voluminous, dragging-on-the-floor, Sound of Music veil. But as the wedding dress search continued, and I ultimately chose a dress that happened to have the same lace as the veil, I couldn't imagine NOT wearing it. And I loved every second.

Veils are a fairly easy thing to share, so if you have a close friend, relative, sister, cousin with a veil, consider borrowing instead of buying. The wonderful woman who altered my wedding dress was able to take a bit of the volume down and make it look a little more modern. Think outside the box when it comes to your veil. 

 

Fun Fact: Semi-comfortable high heels actually exist! I mean, no shoe will be comfy after a whole day on your feet (and to be completely honest, my toes were numb for 48 hours after), but Badgley Mischka is a shockingly comfortable option. And yes, I bought gold shoes instead of white because I totally plan to wear them again.

Don't forget to check the sales at Nordstrom, Macy's, DSW, and Zappos!

 

I wanted to buy lipstick that I would have with me all day, so I marched into Sephora and told the salesperson that I needed wedding lipstick with staying power and I didn't want to spend all day looking for it. He said, "Now look, I don't want to waste your time. I could show you all the options, but whenever I do that with brides, they always end up with the one I'm going to show you right now." He showed it to me. I loved it. I bought it. And yes, I was HORRIFIED by the price, but I loved the fact that the tube has a little mirror attached so I could touch up anywhere. As you see here, it definitely came in handy when held by my brilliant Matron of Honor. Thank you, Sephora! Thank you, salesperson! Thank you, Rouge G de Guerlain le Brillant Jewel Lipstick Compact in Bianca!

 

Wedding programs: Created in Pages, tied with baker's twine, and housed in my grandfather's wooden toolbox.

 

 

We used sheet music (for me) and newspaper (for him) in many places: paper flowers, table numbers, and boutonnieres! 

Note: The paper roses didn't cost much...except hours and hours of my sweet mother's free time. A great wedding freebie, but definitely labor intensive. Here's the tutorial.

 

We got married during football season, so our adorable ring bearer carried our (fake) rings down the aisle attached to this vintage football.

 

There's no reason you have to have a traditional OR modern OR fun OR whimsical wedding. Why not have all of the above?! Here's our ring bearer's Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle gear.

Did it coordinate in any way with the rest of the wedding? No.

Did he and everyone else love it? YES!

 

I really wanted to have a fun guest book instead of a stuffy traditional one. So I dug our family Monopoly board out of the attic, and created this sign using PicMonkey and Kabel (Monopoly) font.

 

I will admit it. I am a straw-a-holic. I had these on the bar for cocktail hour. Glass milk bottle is from Michaels. Straws are by Sprinkled Joy.

 

And of course I needed personalized napkins for cocktail hour. I had four different sayings, all purchased from ForYourParty.

Honestly, by the time it came to order napkins, I was pretty detailed out, so I almost didn't do it. I'm so glad I did because it gave people who didn't know each other that well something to chat about at the beginning of the night. Thanks to my sister for the awesome idea!

 

In that same vein, we created football escort cards tucked into the folded pages of these big books. For more info on how my talented cousin helped bring this vision to life, click here

As for the books, literally all we did was fold the pages inward. We did it in an hour while watching Say Yes to the Dress. So easy!

 

We had a couple of centerpieces in rotation that included: 

  • Willow branches, cranberry branches, and shredded newspaper in tall vases
  • Mercury glass goblets filled with flowers
  • Painted gold vases filled with flowers
  • Stacks of books with leftover library card Save the Dates
  • Shallow glass boats with cranberries and votives
  • And lots and lots and lots of candles

 

Menus are a great place to add brief personal details!

I created these in Pages and Word.

 

Anyone who knows me can tell you that I became OBSESSED with tiny cakes. I was DETERMINED TO HAVE THEM. They just seemed so sweet and dainty and fun and modern. The five tiny cakes are my very favorite Ultimate Cakes from Wegmans. Wegmans added the berries, the florist added the flowers, and TJ Maxx added the cake stands. 

#ilovemytinycakes

 

And of course we couldn't just have ONE dessert--we had a whole table full of cookies and pastries and...(drumroll, please)...INDIVIDUAL GRAPE PIES!

 

Did I mention that we ended the night with bowling? ;)

 

 

And this brings us to the end of our Wedding Edition. Hooray!

 

Again, I know how overwhelming this process can be, and I would be THRILLED to give you any additional info about anything I've posted. 

 

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LET'S GET CRAFTY... Write With Rosie: Wedding Edition (Part 9)

 

A Pinterest-y wedding wouldn't be complete without a few crafts! Here are a few of the projects I tried that were WAY easier than they looked...

 

Window Art

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You guys, I seriously cannot believe how insanely easy this was to do and how amazing it looked afterward.

 

I started out with an old window my grandfather was getting rid of (but you can easily find stuff like this at thrift shops and garage sales) and a chalk marker from Michaels like this.

 

 

 

Here’s how I did it.

 

1.    I printed my wedding logo from Word by clicking the “poster size” option on the print screen.

2.    I pieced the four sheets of paper together and taped them to the back of the window. Honestly, I wasn’t even that careful when I did it. It was the night before the rehearsal dinner and I had no time to waste.

3.    I used the chalk marker to trace the design on the outside of the window. Again, I was not paying attention to detail and it still looked awesome.

4.    I removed the pieces of paper from the back and the window was ready to go!

 

This entire process took me ten minutes. No joke.

 

 

Chalkboard Word Search Pumpkins

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My parents thought I was absolutely crazy when I decided to create centerpieces for our rehearsal dinner. And in retrospect, it wasn’t really necessary. But I really, really loved them.

 

I followed this basic tutorial to create these pumpkins. Here’s an even shorter version of the steps:

 

1.    Purchase real pumpkins. They’ll keep for weeks—especially if you store them in a cool place.

2.    Paint them with chalkboard paint. They may need more than one coat.

3.    Select six to ten words per pumpkin. I was planning on using the names of the people sitting at the table, but when we abandoned our assigned seating, I switched to themes, like places we’ve lived, college-related words, words related to our proposal story, etc.

4.    Using a chalk marker (or regular piece of chalk), write the letters for each word on the pumpkin. You can map them out in advance, but I was in too much of a rush and figured it out as I went along. Be careful—it’s not as easy to erase as it is on a regular chalkboard.

5.    Fill in the rest of the grid with nonsense letters. (This part was actually harder than I thought!)

6.    Create accompanying cards with the search words highlighted. I made this in PicMonkey and put them in IKEA frames.

7.    Add some chalk in jelly jars and let the word searching begin!


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Football Escort Cards

 

I would have had a really hard time putting these escort cards together without the help of my super talented graphic designing cousin Jessica. If you are in need of graphic design, contact her here.

 

I used a football as our ringbearer’s pillow and I knew that I wanted to weave football in somewhere in the reception, so I focused on the escort cards.

 

 

I wanted to get authentic, so I purchased two team sets of football trading cards from eBay: Bills (for my half of the guest list) and Eagles (for his half). It took a little searching to find complementary team sets from the same year, but when we did, they were less than $20 per team.

 

While I was waiting for the cards to arrive, I discussed a possible design with my cousin and she got to work. When the cards arrived, I scanned eight players per team and sent them to Jessica. She added them to the design and laid out four cards per sheet of paper in a regular Word doc. Once she sent the doc to me, I filled in the names, table numbers, and meal choices (indicated by stars). I had printed the pages at home on double-sided cardstock from Michaels (on sale for $4 total). And then I cut out each card individually with this paper trimmer, also from Michaels for $20:

 

This project did have quite a bit of sweat equity involved, but it cost next to nothing, and it gave people who might not have known each other that well something to chat about at cocktail hour!


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WEDDING WEBSITES... Write With Rosie: Special Edition (Part 6)

website via Wedding Wire

website via Wedding Wire

 

I'm not sure when having an elaborate wedding website became such a big deal. 

 

I've seen a ton of sites with first date stories, proposal stories, bridesmaid stories, pictures, clippings, memorabilia, and on and on. I mean, it's great if you have the time to do that sort of thing, but all you really need are the details laid out in a clear, concise way.

 

Of all the wedding details you need to take care of, this is not one you should spend too much time worrying about.

 

I decided to create our wedding website on Wedding Wire because I didn't like the way websites on The Knot are so easily searchable. (C'mon, admit it. You've totally stalked couples whose weddings you weren't invited to, amiright?!) On Wedding Wire, nobody could search for our site unless they knew the URL. Squarespace is now promoting its wedding websites, and while I love Squarespace (my website is on it right now!), it's not as dummy-proof as the other two. 

 

The site that I created was fairly bare bones, but I thought it would be helpful to have all the dates and times and locations in the same place. The one thing I spent more time on was making sure the out-of-towners knew the lay of the land and had options for things to do and places to eat while not at wedding activities.

 

I thought was really helpful was to purchase a domain name for the site. So instead of a website name like www.weddingwire.com/12/15/15/barbieandken that’s difficult for people to remember and bulky to add to save the dates, invitations, etc., I went to GoDaddy.com and purchased a simple domain name for $10 so people would only have to type www.barbieandkenswedding.com. It gets a little tricky to come up with a creative domain name that is available, so we ended up using a “.info” instead of a “.com.”

 

If you decide to create a wedding website, you should include:

 

Dates of wedding activities

Times of wedding activities

Locations of wedding activities

Hotel info, website, & phone number

Travel info

Registry links

 

One last thing that I did was that I created a gmail account specifically for the wedding so that guests with questions or well wishes could contact both of us at once. Plus, it felt sort of festive to have a wedding email account! I added that to the website and called it a day.

 

For website decorations, there were two pictures of us--one the night we got engaged and one of the two of us on the Game of Thrones throne. That's it. I kept it simple and clean. The website wasn't elaborate or showy. It didn't include any stories about us or announce our bridal party. I mean, it's great if you want to do all those things and have the time to do them, but if you're overwhelmed (as most brides are), don't waste a ton of time and energy on your website. 

 

Because then you can waste all your time and energy on your invitations! Muahahahaha! More on that next time...

 

WRITE WITH ROSIE: WEDDING EDITION

Part 1: Getting Started

Part 2: Why Pinterest is a Bride's Best Friend

Part 3: Guests & Venues

Part 4: The Wedding Dress Dilemma

Part 5: Bridesmaid Dresses that Aren't Ugly

 

 

 

 

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BRIDESMAID Dresses that aren't ugly... Write With Rosie: Special Edition (Part 5)

 

Let’s be honest. Most traditional bridesmaid dresses make me want to vom.

 

They’re all SO blah and unflattering and made of itchy material. They're hideous. Nobody wants that.

 

Luckily, I didn't really need to worry about bridesmaid dresses. I went back and forth on selecting my bridal party. I would have loved to have a slew of girlfriends by my side, but in the end, I decided to keep it small. I asked my sister and my brother to stand on the altar with me. So our bridesmaid dress shopping was a LOT less painful than wedding dress shopping, thank goodness. (Read here if you're curious about that painful extravaganza.)

 

Even though I didn't end up needing bridesmaid dresses, I did brainstorm a few ideas that are definitely worth looking into.

 

Modcloth

 

The fantastic things about using Modcloth as Bridesmaid Central are that:

1.    It’s generally VERY affordable.

2.    Almost all of the clothing is the same style (midcentury vintage), so you can easily choose coordinating--not matching--styles for multiple ladies.

3.    It’s very easy to coordinate with out-of-town bridesmaids.

4.    It sits perfectly in that place that is fancier than everyday wear but not the type of fancy that tips the scales to stuffy.

 

Modcloth now has a bridesmaid section, but you don’t even necessarily need to stick to that section. You can simply go to Modcloth.com, select the dresses category, and choose a color and a length. You’ll see an array of dresses that more or less coordinate. You can eliminate the handful that stick out, but otherwise, you’ll have a solid selection of dresses to choose from. If you’re nervous about mixing and matching colors, choose a constant, like black, in different styles. You can use this technique with a number of stores, but I found that the selection most consistently coordinated on Modcloth.

 

 

BHLDN

 

 

 

As an Anthropologie housewares lover, I was, of course, thrilled when Anthro announced the BHLDN line of vintage-inspired dresses. There isn't a whole lot of color selection, but if you're into neutrals and pinks, there's a good amount to choose from. One word of warning: some of the dresses are better made than others, and most aren't super supportive. So these dresses aren't a great option for multiple body types. But still, they're awfully pretty.

 

 

 

 

 

 

ADRIANNA PAPELL

 

My mom actually kicked off my love of Adrianna Papell when she picked one of these gorgeous, sparkly, but not over-the-top dresses to wear for my wedding. I had never heard of the designer before, and I fell in love with her dress, so when we looked for a dress for my sister, my one and only bridesmaid, we started in the Adrianna Pappell section at Lord & Taylor.

 

The dresses in this collection all have an Art Deco feel to them, and the metallics connect the look. So it’s easy to throw a few of these styles together and still look cohesive. In the end, my sister tried on one, and only one, dress, which she purchased on the spot. And we didn’t have to go to a single terrible wedding store. Hallelujah!

 

The moral of the story is this: think outside the box when it comes to your bridal party. 

 

David's Bridal is no longer your only option. And a dress doesn't have to be labeled "Bridesmaid Dress" to be a bridesmaid dress. Rent the Runway now has a bridesmaid section. Ann Taylor and J. Crew now have bridal lines, and other retailers are jumping on board the wedding train, too. A good friend recently purchased her bridesmaid dresses on Piperlime. And they're awesome!

 

Don't let ugly dresses happen to your favorite people. 

 

Any other suggestions for non-hideous bridesmaid dresses out there??

 

WRITE WITH ROSIE: WEDDING EDITION

Part 1: Getting Started

Part 2: Why Pinterest is a Bride's Best Friend

Part 3: Guests & Venues

Part 4: The Wedding Dress Dilemma

 

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The Semi-Crafty, Mostly-Traditional, Budget-Conscious, OCD, Pinterest-y, Perfectionist Guide to Planning a Wedding

Write With Rosie: Wedding Edition (Part 1)

Think it's a bit strange for a writing coach to be writing about wedding planning?

I do, too!

Take a peek at this video to see why, and continue reading below!

 

 

If you're reading this, you're probably engaged, so this is the best time of your life!

 

Right?

 

Wrong. (Sort of.)

 

Now, don't misunderstand me. I couldn't be happier about getting married and sharing my life with an awesome guy. But planning a wedding is a whole different story. And I'm someone who LOVES to plan. I love to plan absolutely everything and anything. In fact, I planned that my wedding planning process would be entirely low-key and non-Bridezilla-y. I never understood it when I saw girls get all wound up about which napkin color to choose. Until it was my turn. And I got all wound up about which napkin color to choose. Who knew?

 

I built up a tremendous amount of wedding know-how in the last nine months, and I'm absolutely dying to pass that know-how on to the brides who can really use it. So if you're a semi-crafty, OCD, Pinterest-y perfectionist, this one's for you!

 

What does that mean exactly? Well, you should keep reading if you:

 

*Are a visual person

*Are suffering from wedding overwhelm

*Like to do crafts that don't require a whole lot of actual artistic ability

*Love trolling Pinterest

*Are on a budget

*Want your wedding to have special details that make it very personal and specific to you

*Wish you knew someone who would give you an honest take on what to expect when you're expected to plan a wedding

 

And here we go....!

 

You're Engaged! Now What?

 

Oh, so you got engaged last night? Amazing! 

That's SO exciting! 

When's the big day? Oh, you don't have one yet? Really? 

Will it be a big wedding or a small wedding?

Where are you guys gonna live? You really don't know? Really?

Have you picked a honeymoon spot? Seriously? That's the first thing I'd do!

How many kids will you have? What will you name them?

 

These were the exact questions I was asked within 48 hours of getting engaged. They were often asked with kindness, but still. It was so overwhelming that I didn't know what to do with myself. 

 

When bombarded with questions, respond to each of them with a smile and, "We're still figuring things out." 

 

Then make no plans or decisions for at least two weeks while you stare at that gorgeous ring on your finger. (And yes, it is perfectly appropriate to take breaks from work to hide in a bathroom stall and stare at it.)

 

Wondering what else my Wedding Edition has in store for you? Here's some wedding goodness to come:

  • Dealing with venues and guest lists
  • Finding a dress (for you and your bridesmaids!)
  • Setting up a wedding website
  • Tackling traditions
  • Invitations, fonts, and all sorts of design tricks
  • Wedding FREEBIES!
  • Simple crafts that make a big impact

Check back next Saturday for more, or sign up to receive this special series right in your inbox, along with my favorite WEDDING FREEBIES!

(Psssst! Not getting married yourself but know someone who is? Don't forget to share! Only YOU can prevent wedding meltdowns.)

 

Next up: Why Pinterest, Google, & Etsy are a bride's best friends!

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